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How Personality Shapes Our Lives

May 19, 2014

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Respected researcher and psychologist John Mayer says we can become the best version of ourselves by building our “personal intelligence” to understand ourselves and perceive what makes others tick.

According to Dr. Mayer, there is a wide range in ability among individuals to understand their own actions, and “perceive” others by:

  • Reading other people's faces and body language
  • Accurately weighing the choices we are presented with in relationships, work and family life
  • Judging whether our various personal life goals conflict or blend together well

As we build this personal or “broader” intelligence, as Mayer refers to it, we are reportedly able to strengthen our ability to problem-solve and predict the actions of others.

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  • John D. Mayer, author of Personal Intelligence: The Power of Personality and How It Shapes Our Lives, is professor of psychology at the University of New Hampshire and a key innovator in intelligence research. He is co-creator of the internationally known Mayer-Salovey-Caruso Emotional Intelligence Test. (Dr. Salovey is president and professor at Yale University.)


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